It is a destructive issue that can have serious effects on a
young person's physical and mental health.
Many people are affected by bullying. Having a better
understanding of bullying and having some useful tips to prevent
and resolve it can help in reducing its impact.
Bullying is intentional and repeated negative behaviour by an
individual or group. It can be related to just about anything and
can come in many forms i.e. cyber, verbal,
social, physical, sexual. Bullying can also take place just about
anywhere. Some common places are schools, workplaces, home and
online, basically any environment where people interact with each
Who is a bully?
A bully can be an individual, or a group of people. A bully is
usually a person who does not value or feel good within themselves
(has low self-esteem) or has been a victim of violence
themselves. Bullying is often a way of making themselves feel
more powerful. Often bullying can become their way of dealing with
their own problems. Bullies can also be motivated by jealousy, lack
of knowledge, fear or misunderstanding.
Bullies can be someone your own age, including friends your
boyfriend or girlfriend, brother or sister, or an extended family
member. A bully can also be an older person, or someone in a
position of power such as a teacher, parent or boss.
What are the effects of Bullying?
The effects of bullying can be very damaging, leaving those that
have been bullied to feel alone, unsafe, afraid, stressed, ashamed
and rejected. Bullying can also have an affect on someone's
self-esteem and in some cases lead to depression.
Often the person who is being bullied will feel that there is no
escape, taking measures to 'fit in' by changing their appearance,
acting differently, and may even go so far as to hurt
themselves or others.
It's important to remember, that if you are being bullied it is
not your fault, there is nothing wrong with you. Everyone is
different, we are all individuals and you don't need to change who
you are. Don't be afraid to let someone know that you are being
bullied as they may be able to help you.
Someone who sees or knows about bullying which is happening to
someone else, is know as the bystander. The bystander plays a
significant role in bullying. Bullying behaviour is reinforced
where people watch but do nothing. Try and be an active bystander
and act according, step in and speak up. For tips on how to do this
have a read of our bystander information. Remember to assess the
situation carefully before you act as it's important you keep
What Can you Do?
If you do feel any of these things, it is important to remember
that it is the result of someone else's behaviour, attitude or
beliefs. It is not because of who you are. Dealing with these
feelings can be hard and seeking help is one way to help you to
overcome them. By identifying these feelings you may be able to
find ways to get bullying to stop and get the feelings to stop.
Cyber-bullying can be even more debilitating than direct
bullying, with victims feeling like there is no escape.
Helping out a friend
If you have a friend who is being bullied and you know they are
going through a tough time ensure they have someone they can talk
to. It's important that they still feel supported. If you witness
them being bullied, don't be a bystander, you can make a
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